How a Deconstructed Evangelical Found Reconstruction as an Anglican
Can God's wisdom be known? What should we do when God feels absent? I'm grateful for the opportunity to write for "The Living Church" in a more extended way about my evangelical deconstruction and Anglican reconstruction.
The Curse & Glory of the Eunuch
Watch this seminar exploring the following questions: How were celibate, childless people marginalized in the Old Testament? What promises were made to childless celibates? How did Jesus fulfill those promises? How might that shape the ways we think about our sexualities today?
Review of Todd Hunter’s “Deep Peace”
Check out my review of Bishop Todd Hunter’s new book “Deep Peace”. It’s packed with wisdom, and I particularly appreciated musings on peacefully loving our enemies.
My favorite author on Celibacy
Max Thurian’s “Marriage and Celibacy” is my go-to recommendation if reading on Protestant theology of celibacy. Check out this post about his book and an icon recently commissioned of the theologian.
What has covid revealed about singleness in our churches?
Watch this interview with Lorinda Pretorius (a Christian Sexologist in South Africa and host of the Chasing Something Podcast) where we discuss singleness and intimacy.
Gay Christian canaries in the Coal Mine
Listen to this episode of the Sola-darity Podcast where Bridget Gee and I to talk about vocational singleness and LGBT+ topics.
Jesus & Paul Taught Lifetime Singleness
Here's 5 reasons why Jesus and Paul *were* particularly talking about permanent singleness. Plus how recognition of this would change our churches.
Church Support for Vocational Singleness
Watch this video exploring how can churches help those called to vocational singleness thrive with reasonable effort (regardless of sexual orientation).
The gay-kid-friendly church I wish I'd had
Listen to this episode of the My Faithful Ally Podcast where Barney Miles and I dream about the churches we wish we had grown up in as gay kids (and what we hope churches become).
From Involuntary Celibacy to Thriving
Check out this transcript about the challenges of involuntary celibacy for gay Christians committed to a traditional sexual ethic and how they can embrace and thrive in their celibacy.
Purity Culture grew from romance idolatry
Listen to this episode of the "Where do we go from here?" podcast where Devi Abraham. Jessica Van Der Wyngaard, and I talk about purity culture and celibacy. The problem with "I Kissed Dating Goodbye" and True Love Waits wasn't traditional sexual ethics. It's that purity culture sold Christians the idol of romance.
Responding to Progressive Sexual Ethics Arguments
Did Jesus talk about gay sex? That's 1 of 9 arguments for gay-affirming theology I tackled in a seminar in 2020. Watch this preview and get access to the full teaching.
Does failing to repent of gay sex send you to Hell?
Watch this video interview with Samuel Perez of the Christian in Progress Podcast . He describes himself as an ex-gay Christian and a former gay stripper. He asked, "If a Christian dies without repenting of gay sex, does he go Hell?" My answer, "No!"
Sharing the gospel with gay non-Christians?
Listen to this episode of The Kingdoms Podcast where they asked, “How can churches do better outreach and invite gay non-Christians to church?” My short answer: Start by getting the gospel right with gay Christians who already agree with you.
Does your church pass the Gay Teen Test?
Listen to this episode of the All Things All People Podcast where Jeremy Jenkins and I talk about the Gay Teen Test. This 5-question assessment helps leaders measure if their churches are places where gay teens will embrace God's love and wisdom for sexuality.
Netflix's "Pray Away": Beware of False Dichotomies
Netflix's "Pray Away" presents a false dichotomy between ex-gay theology and progressive sexual ethics, erasing gay celibate Christians who hold fast to Biblical wisdom while accepting that sexual orientation rarely changes.
What makes relationships safe?
Listen to this episode of the "Unsuitable with MaryB. Safrit" Podcast where we chat about finding family in vocational singleness and what makes relationships safe.
How can churches offer a winsome witness to LGBT+ people?
How can we be a winsome witness to LGBT+ people who are curious about Jesus but repelled by perceptions of Christian homophobia?
Is celibacy harder than marriage?
Is celibacy harder than marriage? I don't think so. Doing life with faithful Christian marriages has convinced me.
Is giving up gay romance a sacrifice?
Is giving up gay romance a sacrifice? If not a sacrifice, why is gay celibacy so difficult?