What kind of love are you made for?
What kind of love are you made for? I joined the Atlanta City Fellows Program to explore the nature of God's love. I argued that God has made all of us to enjoy intimacy in the context of family.
How does the Ex-Gay Movement continue today?
Over the past 50 years 700,000+ Americans participated in sexual orientation change efforts. The results? 96% of people experienced no change in sexual orientation while risk of suicidality doubled. Unfortunately, these practices still continue in our churches…
Happy (Spiritual) Fathers Day
From Fathom Magazine - On Father’s Day, spiritual fathers without biological children are easily overlooked. They witness the holiday celebrations of biological fathers, and Satan’s lie strengthens in their hearts and minds: “If you don’t have physical children, you won’t make a difference.”
Do we need sex or romance?
I joined Vanderbilt Medical Christian Fellowship for a conversation about faith and intimacy. I suggested that none of us *have to have* romance or sex to meet our intimacy needs. What do we need?
Body shame comes in all sizes (& sexes)
I've shared more with friends over the past few years about my body shame. It's been telling me a powerful lie for 20 years: "If you looked like the perfect-seeming guys in videos, you'd be loved. You wouldn't feel alone."
Faith & Sexuality in Brazil
Listen to this episode of the Conflictu Podcast where we discuss faith and sexuality ministry in Brazil.
Is it really better to marry than burn with desire?
From Fathom Magazine - Today, more Christian young adults are postponing marriage or considering never marrying than ever before, and the church at large fears plummeting marriage percentages and the declining birth rates that follow. As those numbers soften, their refrain booms louder: “If abstinent singleness isn’t easy for you, don’t worry. Just get married.” Armed with 1 Corinthians 7:9, they plead with the under-thirty crowd, “PLEASE. Get married.”
Why say gay? Expanded 4-Part Series
Read this 4-part series explaining why I uses “gay” and “gay Christian.”
Why say gay? A response to “Yes to Gay Identity, No to Gay Sex?”
From Juicy Ecumenism - Won't people think I'm having gay sex? That God made me gay? Am I identifying with sin? Compromising my identity in Christ? I've finally written what I hope is the last explanation I'll ever have to give for why I call myself a gay Christian.
Celibacy as Vocation on Preston Sprinkle’s Theology in the Raw Podcast
Listen to this podcast episode of Preston Sprinkle’s Theology in the Raw Podcast where we explore the following questions: Humans can live without sex, but we can’t live without love, intimacy, and community? So where does this leave Christian who are gay, who are also pursuing celibacy as a vocation?
Is celibacy a call to *just as much* human intimacy in family?
While vocational singleness is most often a call to give up romance, marriage, sex, and children to do other kingdom work with undivided attention, it's still a call to intimacy in family.
Parents, choose vocational singles as godparents
Easter 2021 marked two years since Bentley was baptized and I became his godfather. Being a godfather has changed the way I love Bentley and see myself.
God’s Good for Gay People
Watch this video seminar exploring whether the gospel is good news for gay people. What do I believe, why do I hold those beliefs, and what should Church do differently?
Is romance an idol?
Watch this video seminar from Valentine's Day when I joined the Boston Fellows to explore how God's call to vocational singleness challenges the idol of romance in our cities and churches.
Why do men seem more homophobic?
Listen to this episode of the Kent Lapp Podcast where we explore why men seem more homophobic and other questions about faith and sexuality.
The Dear Gay Anglicans Letter
Learn about the Dear Gay Anglicans Letter, its origins, the authors and intent, and ongoing work to welcome and minister to gay agnostics curious about getting to know Jesus in an Anglican context and gay Christians committed to a traditional sexual ethic.
God sets the lonely in families
From Nashotah House Theological Seminary - Read this devotional for the Second Tuesday of Lent (featured in their Lent + Eastertide Daily Reflections).
Don't try to convince non-believers that gay marriage is wrong
I often get asked, "How do I convince my gay friend who isn't a Christian that gay marriage is wrong?" You probably won't.
What’s the best thing straight Christians can do for gay people?
What is the most impactful thing straight Christians can do for gay people? My answer: Give God a chance to call you to vocational singleness.
Sadness and insecurity at my brother's wedding
My brother and sister-in-law made extra effort to include me in their wedding. And by no fault of there's, the wedding was still difficult at times.