From Involuntary Celibacy to Thriving
Check out this transcript about the challenges of involuntary celibacy for gay Christians committed to a traditional sexual ethic and how they can embrace and thrive in their celibacy.
Purity Culture grew from romance idolatry
Listen to this episode of the "Where do we go from here?" podcast where Devi Abraham. Jessica Van Der Wyngaard, and I talk about purity culture and celibacy. The problem with "I Kissed Dating Goodbye" and True Love Waits wasn't traditional sexual ethics. It's that purity culture sold Christians the idol of romance.
Responding to Progressive Sexual Ethics Arguments
Did Jesus talk about gay sex? That's 1 of 9 arguments for gay-affirming theology I tackled in a seminar in 2020. Watch this preview and get access to the full teaching.
Does failing to repent of gay sex send you to Hell?
Watch this video interview with Samuel Perez of the Christian in Progress Podcast . He describes himself as an ex-gay Christian and a former gay stripper. He asked, "If a Christian dies without repenting of gay sex, does he go Hell?" My answer, "No!"
Sharing the gospel with gay non-Christians?
Listen to this episode of The Kingdoms Podcast where they asked, “How can churches do better outreach and invite gay non-Christians to church?” My short answer: Start by getting the gospel right with gay Christians who already agree with you.
Does your church pass the Gay Teen Test?
Listen to this episode of the All Things All People Podcast where Jeremy Jenkins and I talk about the Gay Teen Test. This 5-question assessment helps leaders measure if their churches are places where gay teens will embrace God's love and wisdom for sexuality.
Netflix's "Pray Away": Beware of False Dichotomies
Netflix's "Pray Away" presents a false dichotomy between ex-gay theology and progressive sexual ethics, erasing gay celibate Christians who hold fast to Biblical wisdom while accepting that sexual orientation rarely changes.
What makes relationships safe?
Listen to this episode of the "Unsuitable with MaryB. Safrit" Podcast where we chat about finding family in vocational singleness and what makes relationships safe.
How can churches offer a winsome witness to LGBT+ people?
How can we be a winsome witness to LGBT+ people who are curious about Jesus but repelled by perceptions of Christian homophobia?
Is celibacy harder than marriage?
Is celibacy harder than marriage? I don't think so. Doing life with faithful Christian marriages has convinced me.
Is giving up gay romance a sacrifice?
Is giving up gay romance a sacrifice? If not a sacrifice, why is gay celibacy so difficult?
What kind of love are you made for?
What kind of love are you made for? I joined the Atlanta City Fellows Program to explore the nature of God's love. I argued that God has made all of us to enjoy intimacy in the context of family.
How does the Ex-Gay Movement continue today?
Over the past 50 years 700,000+ Americans participated in sexual orientation change efforts. The results? 96% of people experienced no change in sexual orientation while risk of suicidality doubled. Unfortunately, these practices still continue in our churches…
Happy (Spiritual) Fathers Day
From Fathom Magazine - On Father’s Day, spiritual fathers without biological children are easily overlooked. They witness the holiday celebrations of biological fathers, and Satan’s lie strengthens in their hearts and minds: “If you don’t have physical children, you won’t make a difference.”
Do we need sex or romance?
I joined Vanderbilt Medical Christian Fellowship for a conversation about faith and intimacy. I suggested that none of us *have to have* romance or sex to meet our intimacy needs. What do we need?
Body shame comes in all sizes (& sexes)
I've shared more with friends over the past few years about my body shame. It's been telling me a powerful lie for 20 years: "If you looked like the perfect-seeming guys in videos, you'd be loved. You wouldn't feel alone."
Faith & Sexuality in Brazil
Listen to this episode of the Conflictu Podcast where we discuss faith and sexuality ministry in Brazil.
Is it really better to marry than burn with desire?
From Fathom Magazine - Today, more Christian young adults are postponing marriage or considering never marrying than ever before, and the church at large fears plummeting marriage percentages and the declining birth rates that follow. As those numbers soften, their refrain booms louder: “If abstinent singleness isn’t easy for you, don’t worry. Just get married.” Armed with 1 Corinthians 7:9, they plead with the under-thirty crowd, “PLEASE. Get married.”
Why say gay? Expanded 4-Part Series
Read this 4-part series explaining why I uses “gay” and “gay Christian.”
Why say gay? A response to “Yes to Gay Identity, No to Gay Sex?”
From Juicy Ecumenism - Won't people think I'm having gay sex? That God made me gay? Am I identifying with sin? Compromising my identity in Christ? I've finally written what I hope is the last explanation I'll ever have to give for why I call myself a gay Christian.