Do singles have the least to offer their churches?

Singles have the least to offer their churches (but it’s not their fault).

I recently joined Robby Ortiz on the Enter the Grayzone Podcast to talk about singleness, the Church, and what we miss out on when we don’t support single Christians well.

We often act like singles have the most to offer—so much time! so flexible!—but in reality, unsupported singles often have the least margin.

Loneliness, lack of intimacy, pressure to find a partner, being left out of families and leadership pipelines … it adds up.

Instead, who may actually have the most to give to the Church? Married folks without kids. They can meet their intimacy needs more efficiently while having margin not taken up by child-raising.

The people with the least? It’s a toss-up between married parents and lonely singles.

But it’s not supposed to be this way.

What if single people were supported, seen, and sent—not pitied or sidelined?
What if churches taught a real theology of vocational singleness?
What if celibacy was offered as a meaningful option—not a consolation prize?

There’s so much untapped leadership, service, and wisdom among the singles in our churches.

Listen to the full episode at https://open.spotify.com/episode/5DOdbbGgUJtTxJaKKGpYPH?si=dc277890a689435c.

I’d love to hear your thoughts in the comments. What would support for singles actually look like in your community?